Party of 9 — Betty Vertin

A banner for Betty Vertin's "Party of 9" that depicts a large family walking across a field at sunset..Betty Vertin is a mother and writer living in rural Hastings, Nebraska, with her husband and seven children. Betty is a caregiver to three sons, Max, Rowen, and Charlie. Her oldest was diagnosed with Duchenne muscular dystrophy in 2010 at 4 years old. The other boys were diagnosed with the same in the following year. Although Duchenne occasionally crashes the party, it has not kept her large family from celebrating and enjoying life. She writes her column in hopes of sharing her family’s experiences with others on a similar journey.

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The unbearable weight of grief that smoothes the jagged edges

I type my columns on Tuesdays, but I write them in my head in the days before. I consider what to write, how to begin, and the words to use to share my life experiences. My family is fun, and my columns often reflect that, to show the lessons I’ve…

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To a parent, the years always seem too short

I read a quote the other day on Facebook: “When you are raising babies, you feel how long the days are. When raising teens, you feel with every single bone in your body how short the years are.” Days later, I still carry those words with me as a mom…

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What success looks like for me as a DMD parent

Parenting is the most challenging job I’ve ever had. When my role as a parent expanded into caregiving for three of my children, challenging didn’t even begin to describe the path that lay in front of us. I share seven children with my husband, Jason: Lexi, 23, Max, 19, Chance,…

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Stuck in limbo with both accessible vans out of commission

I live in rural Nebraska with my husband and our seven children. Three of them — Max, 19; Rowen, 15; and Charlie, 14 — live with Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD). People who meet me in person for the first time when I’m with my family are often curious to…

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Waking up on Christmas Eve made me scared and anxious

The Christmas decorations are down and tucked into storage for another year. The house is clean, the counters are clear of the holiday sweets, and our routine is again in sync. However, this holiday season has left lingering fears and sadness quivering in my heart. I share seven children with…

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My husband and I make a great team as we care for our sons

Occasionally I struggle to find a topic to write about in my weekly column. I had that experience before writing this one, so I asked my husband, Jason, what I should write about. He jokingly said, “Husbands!” At first, I laughed with him, but I quickly realized it was…

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How my sons’ DMD progression has changed my outlook

In the past 12 months, our oldest daughter got married, our oldest son moved across town into a college dorm, another son started his final year of high school, and, most significantly, I returned to full-time work outside the home. Life is drastically different for our family than it was…

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How my teaching job reminds me that I’m more than a caregiver

I’m more than a caregiver, but it took a recent life change for me to realize that. I’m a mom to seven children I share with my husband, Jason, including three of our sons — Max, 19, Rowen, 15, and Charlie, 13 — who live with Duchenne muscular…

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Couch shopping awakened me to a focus on my children with DMD

I think about things deeply, rolling ideas around in my head until they make sense. My creative side, the writer, likes to wonder in this way. And as an introvert who naturally tends to keep everything to myself, writing is often the way I can express ideas and feelings after…

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Changes this year helped me learn my limitations as a caregiver

Life feels busy, which is no surprise to me. My husband, Jason, and I share seven children: Lexi, 23; Max, 19; Chance, 17; Rowen, 15; Charlie, 13; Mary, 10; and Callie, 2. Max, Rowen, and Charlie live with Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD). Our lives are busy year-round. This year…

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Being mindful of kidney stones while living with DMD

“Kidney stones!” my 13-year-old son, Charlie, exclaimed when I asked him what I should write about this week. My husband, Jason, and I have seven children: Lexi, 23; Max, 19; Chance, 17; Rowen, 15; Charlie, Mary, 10; and Callie, 2. Max, Rowen, and Charlie have Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD).

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The missed milestones in the teenage years because of DMD

I have three teenage sons — Max, 18, Rowen, 15, and Charlie, 13 — who have Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD). They have met several sweet milestones over the years, and I love celebrating them. I’ve always made a big deal about birthdays, for instance, as well as decorating the…


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