Yes, We Are Rare, but Please Realize We Are Human First
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Rare Disease Day, a global push for rare disease awareness, is less than a week away, on Feb. 28.
As someone with a rare disease myself, I’ve heard the word “rare” quite a bit in my life. It’s a beautiful rallying cry that shows solidarity among people who suffer from rare diseases, which affect about one in every 20 people. We are rare, and we are certainly different, but what I want everyone to realize is that we are still human.
I stand out because I have a rare form of muscular dystrophy called Duchenne. It’s not often you see a young, healthy-looking Gen Zer using a power wheelchair. My calves are enlarged. No, it’s not because I work out. The muscle I lost because of the disease is replaced with fibrotic tissue. My face looks a little puffy, and I could probably pass for an 18-year-old at 24 — two side effects of long-term steroid use to control inflammation.
But I also stand out for who I am as a person. I’m a naturally inquisitive type, which is why I lean toward journalism in the first place. I have a subdued, sarcastic sense of humor. I’m glad to be alive. I have a passion for video games and stream myself playing them in my spare time.
I try to love people like God first loved me. When life is all said and done, I’d like to be remembered not only for having Duchenne, but also for leading a fruitful life and lighting up people around me.
I understand that having Duchenne makes me rare — it’s pretty obvious. But please ignore the diagnosis as much as you can. Don’t see the disease; instead, see the person affected by the disease. My best friends see me for my “rare” personality, not my “rare” genetic makeup or life situation.
On this upcoming Rare Disease Day, I encourage everyone to think about someone you know who is rare not because of the disease they have, but because of the unique person they are.
We are all the same genus and species — Homo sapiens — whether we have a rare disease or not. As far as we know, we’re the only beings that have left Earth’s gravitational pull and flown to the moon, created wonders of the world, and invented art.
We are all similarly unique. Being rare brings us all together. What we are fighting for on this Rare Disease Day is to change the world so we can be rare for who we are, not what we have.
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Comments
Pam Sullivan
Hawken,
Thanks for this glimpse into your life and explaining your feelings in such a rare and personal way. I have a better understanding of the person rather than focusing on the disease. This goes for other friends who face similar challenges and hope we see them for who they are. Keep up your writing! You’re helping so many of us to see personalities first!
Hawken Miller
Hi Pam, thank you for reading! Comments like this keep me going when things get hard!
Sandra
Hawker, you indeed are a rare being of light here to love unconditionally everyone who walks the planet with you. You are part of the whole who will create the “New Earth” we collectively dream of. Rare indeed “Love in form”. Mother Earth needs more rare Beings of Light such as you at this time to touch our essence and wake us up to remember who we all are. Thank you Hawker for simply being you.